Dating someone who just came out of the closet
During the day, Leah is Slack’s user researcher, but her views here do not represent her employer. I’m out to those close to me, but I’m in the closet publicly for now.
So, about a year ago at work, a new employee was hired. In a perfect world, my coworker would be gay and single.
And as we became friends, and as I got to know him more, that crush went away and something far more powerful replaced it. I’m confident it’s love because well, when I’m around him, talking to him, I feel good — extremely good, like I’m worth a million bucks kinda good. As I said, I’ve had several dozen crushes over the years. I’ve tried distancing myself from him at work and ignoring him, but that doesn’t work.
None have ever come close to the feelings I have for my coworker. And while I can never be there for him the way I’d like, I do not want to lose him as a friend.
Just be sure to establish your boundaries with your date so you’re comfortable being yourself and you don’t run the risk of being outed before you’re ready.
You could try searching online or asking people who might know and wouldn't make fun of you (if you know anybody).